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OCASG June 2024 Activities

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Orange County Asperger’s Support Group
June 2024 Activities


Sunday, June 2 from 12:00 PM to 5:00 PM: OCASG Dungeons & Dragons.  The OCASG Dungeon and Dragons Group are embarking on a new journey. This event is by invitation only for those individuals already participating in the group or those who attended the “Dungeons & Dragons Meet and Greet” held in May. The cost is $20 per person and food and drink will be served. Participants will be sent invitations for the 90-minute D&D session. Please Click Here if you would like to participate in future OCASG Dungeons & Dragons adventures.

Saturday, June 8 from 9:30 AM to 11:00 AM: OCASG Toastmasters Gavel Club. Improve your public speaking, have fun, and meet new people at our virtual Toastmasters Gavel Club Meeting. Guests are welcome. Note that this meeting will be held on ZOOM.

​Watch a Video to Learn About the Gavel Club: Click Here ·  To RSVP: Click Here

Saturday, June 8 from 3:30 PM to 6:30 PM: OCASG Outing – Barbeque at Woodbury Community ParkCome join us at Woodbury Community Park in Irvine for a BBQ. This event is for dues-paying OCASG teens, adults, and their families. The cost is $10/person. Please RSVP by Thursday, June 8 so that we will have ample food and drink.

To Register: Click Here

Sunday, June 9 from 1:00 PM to 2:30 PM: Afternoons with AniMat.  Ready for fun. Join Mat Brunet better known as AniMat as he leads discussions of animation, movies, and all things Disney. The topic for this session is the History of Sponge Bob. The fee is $10 per session for dues-paying OCASG members and $15 per session for non-members.

To Register: Click Here

Wednesday, June 12 from 7:00 PM to 8:30 PM: Friends and Fun for Adults- Social Discussion.  OCASG Friends and Fun program is a comprehensive social program for adults. Please join us for a social discussion with Dr. Ali Arena. This activity is exclusively for members of the OCASG Friends and Fun Program. Participants will be sent invitations. Sign-ups for July is now open. Click Here

Saturday, June 15 from 10:00 AM to 11:30 AM: OCASG Partner Book Group. Join OCASG’s specialized support group tailored for spouses, partners, and significant others of those with high-functioning Autism and Asperger’s. We’re excited to introduce our book club sessions, spearheaded by the esteemed coach and writer, Kealah Parkinson. Each meeting dives deep into a chapter from Kealah’s book, creating a space for participants to exchange insights and heartfelt experiences. First-time attendees are welcome. Admission is just $15 per person.

To Register:  Click Here

Saturday, June 15 from 4:00 PM to 6:00 PM: OCASG Friends and Fun Adult Beach Day at Huntington Beach. The OCASG Friends and Fun Program is offering a Beach Day Outing at Huntington Beach. This event is exclusively for those enrolled in OCASG Friends and Fun and is by invitation only.

Monday, June 17 from 7:00 PM to 8:30 PM: OCASG ONLINE: Introduction to the Orange County Local Partnership Agreement: Join Linda O’Neal, recent recipient of the Orange County Regional Center Lifetime Achievement award, as she provides an overview of the key initiatives and contributions of the Orange County Local Partnership Agreement (OCLPA). The Orange County Local Partnership Agreement (OCLPA) uses a consortium model to drive improvements to enhance competitive integrated employment (CIE) for individuals who have disabilities.

To RSVP: Click Here

Wednesday, June 19 from 7:00 PM to 8:30 PM: Friends and Fun for Teens- Social Discussion.  OCASG Friends and Fun program is a comprehensive social program for teens. Please join us for a social discussion with Dr. Ali Arena. This event is by invitation only and is exclusively for participants in the OCASG Friends and Fun Program. Sign-ups for July is now open. Click Here

Saturday, June 22 from 10:00 AM to 11:30 AM: OCASG Women’s Discussion Group. Join us for this women-only discussion group for women (ages 18 and up) who have a diagnosis (or suspected diagnosis) of Asperger’s Syndrome, High Functioning Autism, or PDD-NOS. The group will be led by autism expert, Dr. Ali Arena. The fee is $20 per session for dues-paying OCASG members and $30 for non-members.

To Register: Click Here

Saturday, June 22 from 4:00 PM to 6:00 PM: OCASG Friends and Fun Teen Beach Day at Huntington Beach. The OCASG Friends and Fun Program is offering a Beach Day Outing at Huntington Beach. This event is exclusively for those enrolled in OCASG Friends and Fun and is by invitation only.

Sunday, June 23 from 10:00 AM to 12:00 PM: OCASG Teen Support Group with Dr. Alex Gantman. Share concerns and get advice with Autism Expert, Dr. Alexander Gantman. There is a $20 fee for OCASG Members and $30 for non-members. Please note that you must execute an OCASG Liability Waiver to receive the ZOOM information.

To Register: Click Here

Sunday, June 23 from 2:00 PM to 4:00 PM: OCASG Jam. Join us at one of our members’ Irvine homes for the Orange County Asperger’s Support Group Jam Session. Bring your instruments and a collaborative spirit to share an afternoon of making music.  This is a member’s only event. To RSVP: Click Here

Sunday, June 23 from 3:00 PM to 5:00 PM: OCASG Gathering at Chase Coffee Roasters. Come join us at the Chase Coffee Roasters in Fullerton for a casual get-together. Play UNO, eat a snack, or just chat. Please feel free to bring your own favorite board or card game. This event is open to all OCASG Families. Please note that OCASG is for teens, adults, and their families. We currently do not have programming for younger children.  To RSVP: Click Here

Monday, June 24 from 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM: OCASG Virtual Support Group Meeting. This meeting provides an opportunity to interact with other OCASG members about the challenges we are all facing as part of the ASD community. Know that we are here for each other. We have separate meetings for adults on the spectrum and parents.

Parents RSVP: Click Here
Adults with ASD RSVP: Click Here

OCASG Awarded Irvine Recovery Grant to Host Social Program

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OCASG Awarded Irvine Recover Grant to Host Social Program

We are thrilled to share that the Orange County Asperger’s Support Group (OCASG) has been awarded the Irvine Recovery Program Grant, providing $46,821 in funding to support English and Spanish-speaking adults and teens with high-functioning autism spectrum disorder (ASD) in Irvine. The project is called, the Irvine Autism Social Program and is dedicated to improving mental health and enhancing essential skills, especially for those impacted by the COVID-19 pandemic.

OCASG is excited to offer evidence-based support services that foster friendships and enrich social lives, called the OCASG Friends and Fun Program. Our initial focus will be on adults with high-functioning autism, with plans to include teens in January 2024 and Spanish-speaking individuals in April 2024. We’re grateful for this opportunity to continue making a positive impact on the autism community in Orange County.

This program includes the following.

  • Social Skills Discussions – A monthly discussion to learn techniques for improving your social life, led by Dr. Ali Arena.
  • Social Activities – a monthly social activity led by Erin Alonso, OCASG Social Coordinator. These activities will give you an opportunity to have fun as well as put into practice what you learned during the discussions.
  • Buddies Program – Participants will be matched with a compatible buddy. Monthly activities are designed to help build friendships and prizes will be awarded based on participation.

As OCASG serves individuals throughout Orange County, we will offer the program to both Irvine and non-Irvine residents. However, only those residing in Irvine will be able to participate in this program at no cost. Those living outside the City of Irvine must pay for participation in this program. The quarterly cost is $80/quarter for OCASG members and $100/for non-members. The first discussion session is scheduled for Wednesday, October 11th at 7:30 PM.

For more information on the OCASG Friends and Fun Program, click here.
To register for the Friends and Fun Program, click here.
To apply for the Friends and Fun Program as a resident of the City of Irvine, click here.

About the Grant

The Irvine Recovery Plan Grants Program, the City of Irvine is providing grants to local nonprofit organizations that provide services and programs to the Irvine community. These funds were made available through the American Rescue Plan Act of 2021. This grant is focused on helping vulnerable populations who were impacted by COVID-19. Funds are to be spent between October 2024 and June 2025.

OCASG Launches Autism In Entertainment Initiative

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OCASG Launches Autism in Entertainment Initiative

In May of 2022, the Orange County Asperger’s Support Group (OCASG) established the Autism In Entertainment (AIE) Workgroup. The goal of the Autism In Entertainment Workgroup is to drive employment efforts in entertainment-related careers. Many individuals on the spectrum have passion and skills, well-suited for employment in entertainment. Our goal is to increase awareness of these skill sets and work with the entertainment industry in creating internships, apprenticeships, and employment opportunities. Our members include educators, professionals, and family members who believe that individuals on the autism spectrum can contribute in the development of film, animation, and game design.

In late 2022, OCASG and the workgroup were awarded a Department of Developmental Services Educational Grant designed to help Regional Center consumers find employment. Specifically, the grant will fund the hosting of the Autism In Entertainment Conference in the Spring of 2024.

The AIE Conference planning effort is driven by the Autism In Entertainment Workgroup, led by OCASG with support from Zavikon, an employment agency whose mission is to place neurodivergent individuals and those with disabilities in career-oriented, meaningful jobs, via a supported placement model to set both employer and employee up for success.

Conference Scheduled for 2024

For the last six months we have been hard at work. We are thrilled to announce that the conference will be held on Friday, April 5, 2024 at the prestigious Skirball Cultural Center in Los Angeles. This conference promises to be an unforgettable experience, bringing together top industry professionals, advocates, and individuals on the autism spectrum to discuss how we can improve representation and inclusion in the entertainment industry. With thought-provoking panels, inspiring speakers, and plenty of networking opportunities, this is an event you won’t want to miss. Mark your calendars so that you can join us for this historic event! Registration opens in Q4 2o23.

Autism in Entertainment Website Goes Live

This week the Autism In Entertainment Website has gone live.

The Autism In Entertainment (AIE) website is a key forum for sharing our activities and news. The website is driven by amazing autistic talent to create and deliver our content.

  • The AIE logo was designed by graphic artist Jimi B.
  • The website is being built and managed by IT developer Eric N. Eric is also managing our Constant Contact deployment. Eric’s employment is made possible through the Regional Center Paid Internship Program with technical support from the nonprofit Code the Spectrum.

If you are interested in learning more about the Autism In Entertainment Initiative and Conference, take a minute to tell us about yourself.


Grant to Investigate Toastmasters for Individuals on the Spectrum

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For the past decade, Judi Uttal, Distinguished Toastmaster, has been working with the Orange County Asperger’s Support Group  (OCASG) leveraging the Toastmasters International curriculum to assist individuals on the autism spectrum improve their public speaking and thus their quality of life. She founded a Gavel Club for young adults on the spectrum, that meets monthly. As a result, of these efforts there has been remarkable improvements in the communication skills, social skills, self-confidence, and happiness among the Toastmasters Gavel Club members. Please watch this video to see the benefits that the Toastmasters Gavel Club has had on its members.

In April 2021, Judi Uttal gave a well-received presentation to the Stanford Neurodiversity Project deconstructing the Toastmasters Gavel Club Program and its benefits to the Neurodiverse Community. Please watch this video to view Judi’s presentation. Judi’s goal has been to help other communities see the value of the Toastmasters program to individuals on the autism spectrum, and to assist them in establishing similar programs throughout the world.

On November 30, 2021, it was announced in the OAR News that Sasha Zeedyk, Ph.D (California State University, Fullerton), and Yasamin Bolourian, Ph.D. (University of California, Riverside) were awarded a grant of $40,000 by the Organization for Autism Research to “investigate the impact of a community-based public speaking program.” 

It is clear to me that the use of Toastmasters is extremely powerful in helping individuals on the spectrum,” stated Judi Uttal. “However, there has been no academic work proving that effectiveness. By using scientific methods to analyze the efficacy of this internationally available public speaking program, Dr. Zeedyk and Dr. Bolourian could help inspire similar programs to the one I have run for the last decade.”

OAR received 137 pre-proposals in the 2021 Applied Research Competition and subsequently invited 47 applicants to submit full proposals. Twenty full proposals were selected to move on to the final round. On November 4 and 5, OAR’s Scientific Council met virtually to review those proposals, recommending four studies to the Board of Directors as worthy of funding. The Board unanimously approved all four studies for funding. The study proposed by Dr. Zeedyk and Dr. Bolourian is called “Amplifying Autistic Voices: Investigating the Impact of a Community-Based Public Speaking Program”. It will include two phases:

Phase I: Will be to conduct interviews with Toastmasters participants who are on the autism spectrum, as well as their coaches, mentors, and caregivers who support their participation in the Gavel Club. Field notes from the monthly Toastmasters meetings will be collected.

Phase II: Will be to modify the curriculum based on findings of best practices found in Phase I. The adapted program will then be piloted to test the effectiveness of participation in the Toastmaster’s curriculum among young adults on the spectrum.

Judi Uttal, President of the Orange County Asperger’s Support Group as well as Founder of the OCASG Gavel Club will collaborate on this study by arranging interviews for Phase I and leading the Toastmasters Speechcraft in Phase II.



Transitioning from SSI to Adult Child Disability Benefit

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In a prior blog, I wrote about securing SSI for my son Josh. A few years back my husband retired. While many people wait till 70 to collect their Social Security benefit, in an effort to maximize on their income, I encouraged my husband to take it at 65. The reason? I wanted our son Josh to transition from SSI to the SSDI Childhood Disability Benefit (CDB). With the Childhood Disability Benefit, Josh would receive 50% of my husband’s Social Security benefit. If my husband should pass, the Childhood Disability Benefit would increase to 75%.

In our case, CDB has some advantages over SSI:

1) Unlike SSI which deducts a dollar for every two dollars earned, the CDB does not.
2) This benefit is not needs-based, so the Adult Child can amass more than $2000 without losing their benefit.
3) After two years, the Adult Child is eligible for Medicare.

For a child with ASD, Social Security is part of your child’s financial safety net. In our case, 50% of my husband’s benefit was greater than SSI. In addition, as Josh was preparing to graduate from CSUF, the employment flexibility would prove useful in the future.

To Qualify For CDB

This benefit is available to adults with a disability that began before age 22. It requires the parent to have paid in amply to Social Security and to be either collecting Social Security or be deceased. For details see this pamphlet:

Transitioning from SSI to CDB

In making the transition to CDB, I first contacted our advisor, Jim Huyck to make sure I understood the process. When my husband was ready to apply for Social Security, I accompanied him to the Social Security office. The representative at Social Security noticed that our son was on SSI, and immediately filed the paperwork to transition him to the Child Disability Benefit.
The one hitch, was that Josh would no longer be receiving SSI and therefore he would no longer receive Medi-Cal funding through Social Security. I was told that we needed to go to the Social Services office to apply for Medi-Cal.

The application process for Medi-Cal through Social Services was simple. I had to bring Josh’s financial paperwork and proof of citizenship to the Social Services office. Social Services reviewed the material and approved Josh’s transition such that the funding of Medi-Cal would now be through Social Services. Josh was assigned a case number and a case worker. For details on the process, please refer to

Reporting Wages when Receiving CDB

Like SSI, it is important to report your wages when receiving CDB. Unlike SSI, the rules for how wages are treated are different. This is a bit confusing and to be honest, since Josh has not cycled through this process, I am not sure I fully understand it. Below is a summary:

  • CDB recipients, who are making less than “substantial gainful activity” (SGA), will continue to receive their disability benefits while working. In 2020 SGA is $1,260 per month
  • Once the recipient’s earnings are higher than $880 for nine months during a 60-month period, the Social Security Administration will review the recipient’s income record
  • If the average earnings during the trial work period hit or surpassed the substantial gainful activity threshold of $1,260 then the benefits will likely stop. But if the average earnings during the trial work period are below that amount, then benefits will continue.
  • If the recipient can work while continuing to receive benefits, they can enter what is known as an extended period of eligibility. After the trial work period, they have 36 months during which they can receive benefits for any month in which their earnings fall below the substantial gainful activity threshold.

This month, June marks the two-year anniversary since Josh went on CDB. I will write a separate blog on the process of enrolling Josh in Medicare.

Daily Pilot Publishes Article on OCASG Toastmasters Gavel Club

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Since October 2012, the Orange County Asperger’s Support Group has run a Toastmaster Gavel Club for adults with High Functioning ASD and Asperger’s. Recently the Daily Pilot published an article about our club. Written by LA Times columnist, Patrice Apodaca, this article highlights her visit to the November 2019 meeting of the OCASG Spectrum Speakers Toastmaster Gavel Club.


Television and Autism

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Educating our society is an important step for gaining acceptance of those who have been diagnosed with Autism. In this blog, I will share some of my favorite television shows.


For those who like to stream, Parenthood was dramedy that was released in 2010 based on the film by Ron Howard. One change made in the TV version, was giving Max, the son of Adam Braverman, Autism. The show does an excellent job showing the challenges for parents having a child on the Spectrum. In the show, they deal with getting the diagnosis and building the therapies. Parenthood is available on Netflix and Hulu, and other streaming channels.

The A Word

Another show that deals with some of the same challenges of the diagnosis phase and searching for treatments, is The A Word. This British show first aired in 2016 and focuses on the Hughes Family and their young son Joe who is gifted in music. Quirky and fun you can stream two seasons, with the knowledge that a third is on the way. The A Word is available on Amazon Prime.


Atypical is a show available on Netflix that focuses on Sam, a high school aged boy who has a thing for Penguins and his adorable Psychologist. Jennifer Jason Leigh plays the mother who has defined herself as being Sam’s savior. In this show we Sam become more independent and how that impacts the identity of a mother who has defined herself by having a child with Autism.

The Employables

Just last month, A&E started airing The Employables. Unlike the other dramedies, this reality show focuses on success stories for individuals with Autism and tourette syndrome. Each episode features two young adults and their families. We learn about their challenges, their special talents and finally their experience of landing the right job. Those diagnosed with Autism are struggling with 90% unemployment. Shows like The Employables will hopefully help companies visualize the unique talents that an individual who is wired differently can make to their businesses. The Employables airs on Wednesday nights 1t 10PM on channel 67.

I know that there are more shows that I did not mention. For example Sesame Street has introduced Julia, a muppet with Autism. Even the 1982 medical show, St. Elsewhere featured Dr. Westphall’s son, Tommy, a young boy with Autism. Although I love both Sesame Street and St. Elsewhere, I wanted to focus on the shows that were both entertaining and connected to my experience of being a parent of a child on the spectrum.

Please share the shows and movies that have touched you.

Tanner Browning: Autism and Flexibility

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People With Autism Can Be Inflexible

Every parent wants their child who has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) to lead the best life possible. But life can be very unpredictable.  Through experience, a neurotypical person learns to be flexible, so that when they encounter an unexpected situation they can adapt without assistance. People who are “on the Spectrum” typically have difficulty in learning to be flexible and adapting to change. People with Autism can be very rigid and often don’t deal well with changes or when something unexpected happens.

For someone with ASD, unexpected can be as simple as leaving the house to go out for dinner, attending a social event, or even spending an extra hour shopping at the mall. People with ASD tend to plan out their rituals for specific times throughout the day. If those schedules are disrupted, they can react by becoming anxious, freaking out, or just refusing to do the activity that conflicts with their rituals. There are several issues why people “on the Spectrum” are rigid or unwilling to be flexible. In this blog, I plan to highlight some of those reasons and provide a story of how I am dealing with my own inflexibility.

Protection Through Comfort Zones   

The main reason that people “on the Spectrum” are not willing to change is because it disrupts their comfort zones. Comfort zones are places where a person is in control of their situation or places themselves so that they can feel safe and ease their stress. For someone with ASD, comfort zones typically include doing the same rituals and routines repeatedly. People with Autism use their comfort zones to avoid change or challenges that can make them feel uncomfortable. It’s kind of an invisible barrier that protects them from things that they might find threatening.

It is often hard enough for people who want to step out of their comfort zones to adapt to the difficulties they might encounter. People who have Autism can literally hold on to their comfort zones, because of their fears, to the point that they would do anything to keep their schedule as rigid as possible. This inability to change is called inertia. Inertia is a feeling of being paralyzed during stressful events.

Oftentimes when people with Autism must leave their comfort zone, they just shutdown. The result is that they then become isolated and more inflexible. This can be very frustrating for parents who must deal with their child’s lack of flexibility. As a result, it is very easy for parents to let their children remain in their comfort zones, thereby avoiding the consequences encountered when those comfort zones are disrupted.

How I Used Comfort Zones

Being Autistic myself, I have had a hard time making changes and being flexible about basically anything. To deal with life, I have developed my own comfort zones. When I was younger, my comfort zone was going to school and playing video games when I got home until I went to bed. My parents would often push me to clean my room, take a shower, or do my homework. When there was an event happening like going to church on Easter or cleaning up when a guest was coming, I would glare at my parents and resist complying with their requests. Often, I felt that my very rigid schedule or ritual was being threatened, triggering inertia or defiance. I would then ignore them so that I could complete a multiplayer game like Call of Duty or Halo. This made my parents very frustrated with me and angry that I was not addressing my chores. Sometimes, they would call me lazy, unmotivated and selfish because of my inflexibility, but really, it was just an intrusion on my comfort zone.

In high school, my parents often worried about how this inability to be flexible would impact my life after I graduated. During high school I played football and my dream was to play for the NFL. This focus on my fantasy caused my grades to suffer. I was barely passing with Cs and a few Bs. I graduated high school with only a 2.8 and almost flunked out of community college after one semester. Several years later, I am about to graduate from California State University of Fullerton (CSUF) with a 3.72 GPA in Public Health.

To be honest, it took me a while in college to figure out the best way to handle my study schedule. I often relied on my anxiety about grades to create the motivation I needed to get schoolwork done. I know that anxiety-based motivation isn’t the best way to enable change, but it seems to work for me.

Increasing Motivation with Rewards

One method I use to increase my motivation and willingness to change is to reward myself for participating in activities. In looking back, this can be considered both a good thing or a bad thing. The good thing is that rewarding yourself creates motivation to go to a place or deal with schedule changes. The bad thing is that when you reward a person for doing something, the person might become spoiled and expect a reward, believing, “Oh, I am always going to get my favorite food for going to church with them on Sundays or going to each social event.” For me personally, reward-based motivation can backfire about 65% of the time, because of this “spoiling” effect. The other problem is that it can take a long time to change a person’s behavior. This can be frustrating.

Here is an example of how I used rewards to change my attitude. I used to HATE going to the movies because it seemed like too much time. As a result of my disdain, I would often not talk to people before and after the movie along with not even watching the movie. What helped me to adapt is that I rewarded myself for doing things I did not want to do. For example, if I went to a movie and interacted with people, my reward would be that my parents would pay for the movie tickets and dinner. As a result, I started going to the movies, once a month, with a couple of people. I got used to going and learned to like going to the movies. I enjoyed talking to people and eating free dinners. In fact, I became excited about going to the movies and engaging with my friends, however, I still needed the free movie tickets and a free meal to motivate me, because I wouldn’t do this activity on my own. Yes, it took me about three months of going to the movies, but by slowly adding this new activity of going to the movies over time, I was able to adapt. In the end, I was enthusiastic about attending a blockbuster and going out with my friends. Eventually my parents stopped funding the movie and dinner, and while I did resent this, it did not stop me from going.  It had become more comfortable for me to go and enjoy myself.

I cannot guarantee that this method would work for everyone with Autism. I am sure there are many other ways to deal with flexibility and changing of schedules. In the end, Autism and lack of flexibility remains a big issue. In the past, I was one of the most inflexible people I know. However, I am working on increasing my flexibility and I hope that I can continue to become more flexible over time.

Vu Story: College

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A Look Back at College

What was it like in college for me? Back in high school, college meant I would have the freedom to do the things that I liked. Unlike others, my college experience was mundane. Although I wish I had joined clubs, I was happy with the way things were. I was happy because I got to do the things I wanted to do. Going out to party was out of my comfort zone. I spent most of my college years watching movies and shows and playing video games. It’s embarrassing to admit this but it’s best to be honest and transparent.

Adam and Me

One movie I could relate to was Adam. Adam is a story about a man named Adam with High Functioning Autism, Asperger’s. He lives in New York and struggles to live after his father’s death. He’s been laid off from his engineering job because he couldn’t socialize and connect with his boss and co-workers. He needs to find a job right away to pay the bills for his New York home or he gets kicked out. He meets this beautiful neighbor named Beth. Beth is a schoolteacher who has feelings for Adam. The two get together and go through the ups and downs of being girlfriend and boyfriend.

Adam is a movie where I find a lot of commonality with the main character. A lot of the things Adam does remind me of myself. When Adam trembles at the thought of going out to a party with Beth, I am reminded of how I’m always like that when it comes to socializing. He would pretend he’s not there so that Beth would leave.  When I’m invited to parties, I get very nervous exactly like Adam did. At times, I feel like my heart is going to pop out of my chest. What I love about the movie is that when I’m watching it, I feel like I’m watching myself through Adam. As someone who is on the spectrum, watching movies like Adam is a way for me to immerse myself in the fictional world.

Watching movies wasn’t my only hobby. I also liked watching TV shows. I recently saw a show called Atypical and I thought it was amazing. What makes this show so relatable is the main character. He’s on the spectrum like Adam and he struggles with social queues. When I watch shows like this, I can feel the realness and sensitive side to them. The depiction of High Functioning Autism is on point. His lack of eye contact, sensory processing issues, blurting out inappropriate things, not being able to read other feelings, social struggles, his obsession with one subject, his outbursts and all the way to his food preferences are all I can relate to. I love shows like that.

Socializing Through Video Games

For me socializing during college was playing a game called Clash of Clans. I remember exactly the moment I downloaded the game. I was bored one October night in 2012. I wanted to look for something to do to pass the time. Looking back, I should’ve done something more productive. But I don’t regret it. Playing Clash of Clans has given me a sense of community and belonging. I would chat to the people I’ve met through the game day after day. It’s like a second family to me. Some of us are still in that clan to this day.

Sure, my college experience would’ve been much better had I known to join clubs but that wasn’t my interest. I didn’t have any interests besides gaming and watching movies. My school didn’t have any of those clubs so I spent most of my days going to school and then driving home. I would have loved to join a gaming club or something that I would enjoy.

What I Learned as an Intern

What I’ve found being in an intern at the Orange County Asperger’s Support Group is that people who have the same mindset as you do are more likely to be more understanding. I can feel it and then feel more comfortable. I would imagine being in a gaming club could have the same effect. Seeing someone who likes video games is easier to talk to because we both can have something in common to talk about. I’m not the best with small talks but with video games, I can keep a conversation going. I can talk to gamers and feel comfortable. It makes it easier when you have something to talk about instead of blank thoughts. It’s very awkward to have silence in a conversation.

What will the future hold for me is still very hard to fathom. One thing for sure is that I’ll have to become more independent and less sensitive to the things around me. Life is very hard and the one that is willing to put in the work will make it out on top.

Judi’s Story Continues: Independent Study Resolution

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For those of you following my story about the REEL People program and my son Josh, I wanted to give you an update. When we last left our hero, we were trying to get CSUF to recognized the REEL People program as an independent study.

Because Josh is an adult, I had to relinquish control of navigating the red tape to Josh. To my surprise, Josh took the lead. He contacted several professors to try and find a sponsor. He was turned down. He sent emails to the Chairman of the school, who did not respond. After several weeks of rejection, Josh went by the Chairman’s office. The Chairman’s secretary told Josh he would have to send at least three emails.

Overcoming Rejection

With perseverance, a few weeks later, Josh finally spoke to the Chairman of the film school. They set up a meeting. Josh showed, up but the Chairman was speaking with someone else in his office. Josh left but asked the secretary, “To please let the Chairman know that I stopped by.”

Feeling bad, the Chairman then contacted Josh by phone to arranged for a call that evening. Josh asked me to write up a script, so that he would know exactly what to ask. That evening, Josh spoke to the Chairman on the phone. The Chairman was supportive of the idea, and asked Josh to send him some additional information by email.

The next morning, we worked on the email. Josh suggested mentioning me in the email, not as his mother, but as the President of the Orange County Asperger’s Support Group. I thought that was clever. I also felt good that he valued my role with OCASG.

Communication Stopped

Well Thanksgiving happened, and all communication stopped. A week later, I was kind of worried. I spoke to Josh on the phone, and he said that he planned on going by the Chairman’s office to follow up.

But coincidentally, the Chairman called him that day. Josh stopped by the Chairman’s office on his way to class. The Chairman’s secretary informed Josh that he would need additional information. Josh called me. I supplied the missing data. Working with the Secretary, Josh completed the paperwork.

Josh Plays a Trick on Me

Later that day, Josh called me up. “Mom,” he said. “I need one more piece of information. Would you please check online to see what courses I am signed up for the Spring semester?”

I logged into the CSUF website. I started reading off the courses, “Black Representation in Film,” I started. “Production 2,” I continued. “Independent Study, Josh you got in!” I exclaimed.

Josh laughed, “I know. I wanted to surprise you. The Chairman of the department, is going to be overseeing the independent study.”

Earlier that day, I got a text from my friend Diane. She informed that her son Josh was approved for the independent study by Art Department.

So, as it stands now, both Josh B. and Josh C. will be together once more this January, to take the REEL People course.

Happy and Proud

I am so happy and proud. Happy that Josh got accepted into the program. Proud that Josh made it happen. Being able to self-advocate is critical for our kids. I am pleased that Josh is demonstrating the ability to understand motivations, communicate, and persevere.

Of course, I am still keeping my fingers crossed that there are no unforeseen surprises.